My son is now a year old, and we're still living with his dad's parents. I can't believe how hard it is to find a decent job. I thought I had found one, only today I found out that it is completely under the table. It makes me a little skeptical as to whether I should continue with it or not. Although I should be able to get a better job in a month, so really, is it worth just stopping this one to be unemployed until next month?
Either way, Jeremy's parents are beginning to get on my nerves. They like to intervene way too much. For instance, today, my son was quite tired, but it was way too late for a nap. I can't put him down for a nap at 6:30 when he goes to bed at 8:30, it just doesn't work that way. So what happens? Jeremy's dad picks him up and cuddles him and lays down with him and rocks him most of the way to sleep. At this point I am really irritated and say "I really don't want him going to bed right now". His mom responds with, "well, I think it's too late for that." This irritated me, he is MY son, if I don't want him to go to sleep, then you should listen to what I have to say and do what I say when it comes to my son! I told her that if he wasn't being rocked and if he was sat up that he would continue to play, and guess what, when he was sat up he continued to play!
This is not the first time something like this has happened. We're teaching our son No right now. He likes to play with the buttons on the tv, and get into everything. He is usually pretty good, you say no and he will stop and move onto something else, or he will just stop and scream for a minute or two. Lately he has been screaming more and more, however, I think this has more to do with Jeremy's dad. Every time we say no and our son cries, Jeremy's dad immediately picks him up and cuddles him and rocks him. Once he puts him down our son goes back to doing what he was doing before, and this continues in a circle. It has become rather irritating, it is reversing everything we have taught him thus far!
Jeremy has spoken to his parents, as have I. I have tried to be as polite about it as possible but it has become extremely difficult. I am so angry with his parents! My own son refuses to have anything to do with me when Jeremy's dad is in the room! If I try to pick him up from his Grandfather, he squirms and cries and just throws a fit! This is not right! You would think that if they see that I am bothered by it, and I am extremely bothered by it, and if MY son is getting more attached to them then his mother, don't you think it would be time to back off! What bothers me even more then all of this is they have slipped up and called themselves Mommy, or Daddy by mistake when talking to him.
By the end of the day, almost everyday, I cry when I go to bed, because my son wants nothing to do with his mother when his grandparents are around. I so desperately want to move out, but we just can't afford it. There is not a single thing that we can say or do to make them back off. I appreciate their help, when I ask for it. However, if I do not ask for it, I wish they would just leave me and my son the hell alone! I don't think that is too much to ask.
